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She wished ther…
She wished there was somebody she could lean against; then she wished she was different, the sort of person who did not need to lean on others. –Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Half of a Yellow Sun (via...
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I don’t think l…
I don’t think love is always a huge, cataclysmal emotional event. I think sometimes it sits in front of you for a very long time until you glance over and say, oh, there you are. I don’t think it’s...
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My great hope f…
My great hope for us as young women is to start being kinder to ourselves so that we can be kinder to each other. To stop shaming ourselves and other people for things we don’t know the full story on —...
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I don’t want to…
I don’t want to fix you, fixing isn’t what you need. You’re not broken. You’re scarred and a little bruised around the edges. That’s just fine to me. I want to support you, because to heal, you have to...
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*smiles a lot and makes cute faces*
I’ve spent most of this week feeling particularly goofy and sappy and happy and silly and just overflowing with love and something that looks a lot like joy, and for good reason(s), too. Going away...
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aggiesez, on self-squelching in poly relationships
Another negative effect of “bleedover” I’ve experienced is self-squelching. When trying to respect that my partner has other pressing matters to attend to, I may start to chronically downplay (to my...
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yourpersonalcheerleader: You don’t have to pull away if you’re struggling. I know it is often instinctual, because you think you are going to burden someone, but that someone would much rather be there...
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Eve Rickert, on emotional outsourcing
One of the most common—and devastating—relationship mistakes a person can make is to assume, “I am feeling bad, so that means someone has done something bad to me.” Sometimes it’s true: abuse happens,...
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comfemgem: Less “I love you the way you are so please don’t ever change” and more “I love you the way you are, and I will love and support you in any changes you need to make to be happy”. (via...
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Day 14: Love Language #30Layers30Days
What are your favorite ways to give and receive love? Words of Affirmation Acts of Service Quality Time Physical Touch Gift Giving So Love Languages are a thing I’ve talked about before. Twice. The...
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Fred Rogers, on listening to one another in times of stress
In times of stress, the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers. –Fred Rogers, The World...
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Chani Nicholas, on relationship paradoxes
Learn to sit with uncomfortable, complex, paradoxes. Learn how to not immediately try to make it better. Learn how to let others have their own reactions and responses. That is what being in a...
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